Carolyn Hax for the Washington Post
Re: Husband’s Ex: The way you broke down the issues to explore is outstanding and so logical, but not something I could do myself. It feels like some of the questions I should ask myself are swirling around in my head but they never land. Do you have any tips on how to approach an analysis like this? — Asking Myself Asking Myself: It’s a skill like any other. You start with the thing that’s bothering you — in this example, “Husband helps ex with her baby more than I think is okay.” Then you break it down into pieces. Husband, ex-girlfriend, time, baby. Then you see whether your feelings change if you change each element, one at a time: